Sunday, December 4, 2011


I have watched last weeks episode of Glee no less than five times this weekend. It so gets to me.

This afternoon I took BG to our town's Christmas parade. We managed to find a spot right at the front of the sidewalk in front of this really nice older couple and two young boys. At one point, a young dance troupe went by made up of a few girls and one boy. I heard the boys snickering at this boy but it was what happened next that floored me.

A conversation ensued about this young dancer and at one point I heard the older gentleman say "Oh we'll always be proud of you; unless you become a dancer".

My jaw hit the sidewalk.

But it gets worse; a certain group of people walked by in the parade and the man flat out told the boys not to wave at them.

Do what?!

There are certain things that I think are right and wrong, but it is NEVER my place to judge people. It is my commandment to LOVE them. I plan on raising my child with my beliefs. I want her to know as a child of God that there are ways she is to live her life. That as His child she is not to pass judgement. She is to be kind.

I would be lying if I told you that secretly I don't hope for a soccer player. For an outgoing child that loves music and people and school. But if she's a quiet child that hates sports?(horrors!) I will still love her and be beyond proud of her. That is my job as her parent.

It terrifies me that in a day and age where 11 year olds are committing suicide, that we as parents are not doing more at home to teach acceptance. That we aren't doing more to teach them to love one another. That this kind of pure hatred is still being tolerated. That we aren't teaching our children that is absolutely unacceptable to be just plain mean.

I get that there will be teasing. I get that. But if we as parents aren't drawing a line, then do we have any right to be upset about some of the headlines coming out of our kids schools?

My prayer is that the love of Christ will shine through my daughter. That she will be like Finn in this weeks Glee episode and genuinely care enough about another person that she will fight for them even when they don't know they need it. That she'll stand up for them when everyone else is turning their back. That she will love them, even if they are different from her.

That couple we sat in front of? Very, very nice. They went out of their way to help BG get some candy and even helped point out Santa to her. They were not bad people. If I were to make a snap judgement based on the two things I heard, I would have missed the good in them. And there WAS good. But isn't that exactly what they're doing by labeling that dancer? Or that group of people?

What gives me hope is that it is now my generation raising the kids. And I pray that we are teaching our kids that it is not okay to treat people badly. BG is so good right now. It is mine and her fathers duty to foster that and make her a beautiful person inside and out. The world desperately needs more of those...


Amy @ Forever 29 said...

These things are so hard to navigate once you are a parent! Somehow everything gains new meaning, because you know that situations like this will one day affect the little person that you want to remain good and perfect. You are a great mommy to realize that!

Melissa @ I Pick Pretty said...

Yes, yes, yes. It does my heart good to see that their are parents like you teaching their little ones this. We'll try to do the same, though of course there are plenty of planks in my eye that need removing in the process :-).

Unknown said...

I'm not sure how it feels to be a parent but as young as young as I am now (22 yrs. old), I am already trying my best to prepare for my future children. One of the ways I do this is by documenting the things I learn in life through blogging ( so that I may easily teach them to my kids in the future. I'm so glad I came across your Blog today. I also wrote something about "acceptance" in my blog and I'm so glad that I read yours. :) thanks for this :)

A.B. said...

She'll be all of those things. Or none of those things. And because you're her mom you won't care. I wish everyone grew up that way.

Love to you my blog friend.

Heather said...

Being a parent is so hard, isn't it? I think you captured this perfectly. And I'm so disappointed that those people were so judgmental - ugh...

KM said...

Beautiful post! You just have a way of saying the things that need to be said it the right way! BG is lucky to have you for her mother!


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